Music Helped Me Grieve

I created this playlist years ago when my darling dad was very sick and battling cancer. We played it together in his bedroom where he lay dying, fading in and out of consciousness but letting me know, with a stroke and squeeze of my hand and a whispered “I like this song” as we lay side by side on his bed, often with my mom on the other side of him, that he appreciated this moment filled with memories.

Dad passed away four years ago and there is not a day goes by when I do not miss him, wishing I could tell him a bemusing story or share with him some good news. I suppose that desire will never go away entirely and I’m okay with that. I know I was super fortunate to have had such a great dad and for such a long time. I was in my late 40’s when he passed so he got to see me marry and knew his grandchildren and we all spent lots of time during their childhood together.

Now, when I hear any of these songs playing on the oldies stations I find I don’t always cry when I hear them, but find myself smiling and thinking of dad with warmth and fond memories. (Well, Rocky Mountain High still makes me cry and maybe always will.) For the most part though I am, to quote Kacey Musgraves, happy and sad at the same time…happy that I profoundly remember such a pure love and sad because my daddy is gone.

I hope you enjoy this playlist. If you spent any amount of time around your own dad during the 70’s, some of these songs may be as special to you as they are to me.

Peace & Love & Music